I watched a movie the other night about a young man who was told that, without treatment, he would die in a few weeks. The actor left the doctor’s office, bought a motorcycle, and drove across Canada in search of himself.
It seemed to me that this is just the sort of thing that people expect that they would do if they had only a short time to live. Find yourself! Knock off some of the to-do’s on your bucket list! Face the rest of your days with reckless abandon! And some people do.
But chances are you don’t have to be in a rush. The reality is that most people diagnosed with cancer today have a very high chance of surviving it. And more often than not, treatment ends, and they go on to live a somewhat “normal” life.
Moving on to a normal (i.e. non-medical) life is exactly what my brother-in-law Doug Gosling thought when he was diagnosed with prostate cancer in 2002. We even interviewed him here and wrote an article about his diagnosis. It has been very popular reading for our website visitors.
When Doug went back to a normal life, he was surprised by the extent to which his cancer had affected him emotionally. He struggled with the meaning of life, the “why me?”, and recurrent fears. He believes that this emotional aspect of survivorship is not fully addressed or understood by many people, including the very medical professionals who try to keep us otherwise healthy and strong.
In the intervening years since diagnosis, Doug has spoken and written about this, encouraging other survivors to talk about it as well. He blogs about the emotional impact here.
Sadly, Doug has had a recurrence of his cancer and he is now fighting for his life. Actually, he is fighting for his QUALITY of life, because the treatments and the management of his pain have stripped away much of his ability to find comfort.
In the face of all this, though, Doug continues to raise awareness of the patient information needs and emotional impact of cancer to health care professionals and has worked hard with the Princess Margaret Hospital to inform the doctors and nurses of the needs of cancer patients.
He is going to be interviewed on a popular radio show in Toronto called Metro Morning on February 11th. I urge you to listen in as he is a great speaker.
Doug is also a very good writer and he has published his book about his journey called The Wolf at my Door. I strongly recommend that you read it. It is available online at Amazon.ca and Amazon.com, as well at through Trafford Publishing.